Men are often worried about their performance in bed, so much so that at times it can often seem a bit obsessive. Sexual performance can be a difficult and frustrating topic to discuss with your partner, so it is often hard to know just what to do if you feel you need to perform better in bed. There are several simple things you can that don’t involve expensive and often dangerous medications.
Communication is the Key Towards Increased Sexual Performance
Learning to communicate with your partner is probably the single greatest thing you can do as a man to increase your sexual performance. An open and frank discussion with your spouse may actually surprise you. Ask your wife what her ‘signals’ are – in other words how you can tell that she is ready and interested in a romantic interlude. Talk to her about how and where she likes being touched. Because these can be difficult conversations to have, it is sometimes a good idea to start the evening out with a good dinner and perhaps a good glass of wine. Explain to her that you are concerned about your performance and want to discuss it with her. Taking a little time talk to your wife is a great way to increase your performance in bed.
Making Your Wife Feel Attractive and Desired
Another good idea is to realize that your wife has different needs and wants than you do. In many cases, sex is much more about emotional intimacy for women. Realizing her insecurities and the things that make her feel beautiful and special are an excellent way to help your wife enjoy a sexual experience with you much more. Women are often emotional, insecure and concerned about their own performance; make sure to take these factors into consideration when making love with your wife.
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
Finally, there is no way around the fact that men and women are completely different sexual beings. Without relying on dangerous medications, as a man, you can only ‘perform’ so many times a day. First, realize that this is ok. This is just a simple matter of nature. Accept it and make the most of the time you spend with your wife. The biggest complaint of many women in regards to their sex life is the lack of time their husband spends pleasing them. Consider extended your foreplay. Foreplay is an excellent way to not only give your wife physical pleasure, but to make her feel special and beautiful as well. Realizing your physical limitations and increasing the amount of time spent on foreplay is a great step towards improving your sexual performance in bed.
Spend the Day in Bed
Learning to extend foreplay and love making is another important key to increasing your sexual performance. Some professionals suggest spending an entire day making love to your wife to learn how to extend foreplay and lovemaking. Practically speaking, this means spend time loving every part of your wife. Learn the panes of her hands, her legs, remembering that sex is more about the genitals. Really get to know your wife’s entire body as well as her sexual mind by spending the day making love.
Sexual performance in bed is a concern for most men. It doesn’t have to be, by taking the focus off of the actual physical act and focusing more on the emotions and sensations behind the act you can and will increase your wife’s pleasure and enjoyment.