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Parenting a Child with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder

Monday, March 28th, 2011

Raising a child in its literal meaning is a challenge in itself. Parenting a child diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder otherwise known as ADHD can lead additional challenges and sometimes burdensome. A life with a child with ADHD can be frustrating and overwhelming, but parents can do something about it because when symptoms become apparent, they can be overcome and lessened.

For better understanding, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is one of the most common disorders to children and can continue to adulthood. Generally, children with ADHD have the difficulty to stay focused and pay attention, a problem with over activity and impulsivity or combination. For such problems to be diagnosed and considered as ADHD, they must be beyond the normal behavior of a child based on age and development.

Parents sometimes blame themselves for the cause, but truly it is not known and undetermined. However, a constant research shows that genetic factors is likely responsible for the causes of ADHD because such tend to be even apparent among other family members.

Dealing the issue could be easier and lighter if acknowledging and accepting it is borne in mind. Indeed, a child with ADHD can succeed with the help, support and guidance of parents. The early these problems are constantly addressed, the more likely they succeed. Remember, your child’s behavior is not intentional and don’t break out your patience with his behavior. You as the parent should be the one adjusting and not the child since he would not understand you either. Hold on to your sense of humor and keep yourself flexible. Bear in mind that your child with ADHD is special and not a curse or a burden.

Patience, patience and more patience is an utmost trait that a parent should possess. There can be no use of scolding, spanking, shouting, or taunting your child because the symptoms become deeper rather than improving. It could be very difficult, but more frustrating when you chose to drain yourself forcing them to do what you want. More so, make a firm routine or activities for them. Children with ADHD can consistently function best when they follow a firm routine or activities that are predictable. They tend to freak out when the activity is new and they become impatient and bored. It would be fine to remind them again and again with the set rules. Another, don’t forget to praise and reward them when they achieve something, that way they can feel and built their confidence and self esteem.

There can be many other guides and tips on how to raise and deal your child with ADHD and they are available in the internet or bookstore or elsewhere. Don’t hesitate to learn on how to handle the issue because there lays their fate.

 

Single parenting issues

Sunday, July 25th, 2010

Whether a single parent for the indeterminate future or just for the week, beware of the temptation to handle everything alone. While the Helen Reddy tune, “I Am Woman,” may be playing in your mind, you do not need to be strong and independent perpetually. Caring for a child, home, finances, and all responsibilities involved is time, energy, and thought consuming. Being extremely independent may be detrimental to you and your family. If you find yourself resistant to accepting help, examine your reasons and consider some changes.

There are numerous reasons you may maintain total self-reliance. One is to prove to yourself that you’re a supermom. Challenging yourself to reach a goal is great for the daily workout, but not for life 24/7. The human body needs rest for optimum health and the mind needs periods of quiet to recharge. Your family requires a healthy mother to nurture them. But a non-stop supermom will eventually falter with impatience, mistakes or illness. Staying healthy and keeping your mind sharp results in safe driving, correct medication, and patient help with homework.

Another reason you may be strictly self-sufficient is to prove your worth to others. Whether you are trying to show up someone who has voiced reservations about your ability or trying to impress someone with your skills, you may sink your own ship by overdoing. Your focus should be to take good care of yourself so you can take great care of your family. Leave the judgmental thoughts of other people where they belong, in the other people.

Once you have examined the motives behind your reluctance to ask for or accept help, think of how you have been demonstrating it. You may have telegraphed your feelings to others without knowing it. Do you occasionally invite others to your home and offer to visit? Do you exchange pleasantries with your neighbors and show sincere interest in what they offer to share? The manner in which you decline an offer can speak volumes. If an offer is rejected coldly, a potential friend may never offer again.

Family and community interdependence has been a necessary part of life from earliest mankind. Clans and tribes formed because no individual could have survived natural elements for long. But society today presents the ability to live within yards of others and still be in seclusion. The modern mum may be isolating herself without meaning to. However, opportunities for new relationships abound and lost ones might be regained. Consider the benefits of shedding some independence and opening your life to others.